Thursday, October 27, 2016

The Triggers of Eating Disorders


Eating disorders do not have one specific origin but they can be triggered by mental, environmental, and social factors. Bulimics, anorexics, and binge-eaters have many things in common yet they are so different at once. People can suffer from these mental illnesses no matter their culture, gender, or religion. Depression and low self-esteem are relatively common for people with eating disorders. They cause people to become solitary and consumed with their own grief. Standards for beauty and the perfect body affect the mental health of humans worldwide.
The most common disorders are bulimia nervosa, anorexia nervosa, and binge-eating disorder. Bulimia is best described as consuming a lot of food in a short period of time. It is followed by purging (self-induced vomiting to rid themselves of guilt). Anorexia is the opposite as it involves eating little to no food. However, when they do eat, it may be followed by purging. Unlike bulimia and anorexia, people who have a binge-eating disorder solely eats excess amounts of food without trying to get rid of its damage.
Although thin is generally the ‘ideal’ body, it can vary throughout cultures. Being exposed to different cultures can affect yours fitness goals. People in Central/South America and the Caribbean prefer a thicker physique. Many believe that “having meat” is beautiful. However, they mean the right kind of meat. They mean having meat on the breasts and glutes. They don’t mean having meat where fat is more prone to be stored, or the stomach. The ideal body is slim yet curvaceous. Someone from those countries living in America might have trouble dealing body image as the people in their lives set different standards. This could lead to bulimia, binging for one side and purging for the other.
Sociocultural factors play a big part in promoting eating disorders as media becomes more popular. Social media makes people vulnerable without them realizing. Whether it be unconsciously oversharing on Twitter or Instagram fitness accounts making people self-loathing. The way we engage with the world has changed completely. The romanticizing of mental illnesses is something that is seen frequently on sites such as Tumblr. It can be easy for teens to fall into a trap of counting calories and extreme dieting, because they are “still in a phase of brain development and emotional regulation and often susceptible to peer pressure.” Another problem that has recently caused confusion among teens is that the ideal body has been alternating. The most common is obviously being thin. However, with celebrities like Kim Kardashian and Amber Rose(who both embrace their bodies magically), millennials are glamorizing curvier bodies. Lean and muscular bodies have also become popular as weight lifting can help with the glutes. Someone with a body that is not skinny or curvy can become frustrated and eating disorders may serve as a coping mechanism.
Although less common, men also suffer from eating disorders. “The stereotypical person with anorexia nervosa is a rich, white, adolescent girl; which is far from reality, because AN effects all genders, ages, races and socioeconomic classes.” The sexualization of muscular men can cause many to become obsessive about their bodies. This can cause excessive exercise and potentially a binge-eating disorder. Men are encouraged to avoid self disclosure; this could lead to developing an eating disorder as an alternative to expressing emotions. Becoming educated on eating disorders is the first step to understanding those suffering from them.
The National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders


How to: Love Yourself

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There was a point in my life where I truly believed that I was unable to reach a state of happiness. I wouldn’t say that I have now reached it, but I am pretty close. Aside from stress and obstacles in life, I am at ease with who I am. The road getting here was long, but it made me stronger. I have always had a very low self esteem and low hopes for life. Within the past year, that has changed greatly. I have realized things I cared too much about and things I didn’t care enough for. I learned that if you don’t like something about yourself or your life, you do have the power to change it. The hardest part is the first step. Within the past year, my body has changed quite a bit. I don’t like to dwell on the scale because the number doesn’t matter to me. I didn’t like the way I looked and I decided to change that. I am in no way saying that having a bigger frame is unhealthy, but I definitely was. I was eating out a lot and getting little to no exercise. I am definitely still a thick woman, but I am healthy. I eat better and go to the gym regularly. It was immensely hard to make this lifestyle change.
I remember during one of my first days at the gym, I was so close to giving up. I was so tired; my legs hurt and my heart was thumping. I got off the machine and headed straight to the locker room. I remember the tears and the anguished filled knot in my throat. I sat there for about 20 to 30 minutes wondering what I should do next. I contemplated staying or leaving. I knew that leaving would just hurt me in the long run so I stayed. I was strong. After that day, I didn’t dread the gym – I enjoyed it. In recent years, I have had a constant stress along with numerous headaches. I now use the gym as an outlet to release the tension of my everyday life. It brings me peace. Additionally, it gives me time alone to think and reflect.
This isn’t the sole reason for my newfound peace but it is a big part. It has allowed me to break down my walls and control my life rather than letting it control me. Here are eight tips I thought could help on keeping a positive and open outlook:
  1. Stop letting negative thoughts take over you. YOU create your story and you can change it whenever you want. Do not dwell on the past, move forward.
  2. Surround yourself with positive people. Do not continue negative/toxic relationships because of lost time or the fear of being alone. Always surround yourself with people who have your best interest at heart and will be happy to see you rise.
  3. Exercise. Do not exercise solely to change your body appearance. Exercise because it’s fun and is a great stress reliever.
  4. Fix strained relationships. Fixing my relationship with my mother was one of the biggest things that brought me peace and positivity. It was strained due to both of us suffering depression at the same time and being unable to be supportive towards one another.
  5. Manage your time wisely. Running around doing things at the last minute caused me frequent headaches in the past. I now remember to set reminders for anything coming up. I work full time and go to school full time so time management is very important in my life.
  6. Set aside time for yourself. Although keeping busy helps me stay motivated, I always remember to set aside time for myself to relax. Watch a movie, binge watch your favorite show, take a bath, or go shopping. Do anything that will help you focus away from your problems and ease your mind.
  7. Embrace your body and style. Wear anything and everything that you want. Expressing your emotions through fashion is self-empowering. Don’t be afraid to show skin or to not show any at all.
  8. Find a hobby and get socially involved. Expressing yourself shouldn’t be confined through fashion though. It can be anything. Playing a sport, writing, music, or joining a club can help you express yourself while meeting new people along the way.

The Fear of Fearing: Anxiety

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A lot of people who fortunately do not suffer from the unnecessary worrying and constant fear feel that anxiety is not as bad as we make it seem. Although anxiety is a very common mental illness, those who do not suffer are fortunate that they do not have to wake up with a fear of no cause, a fear of which they cannot find the origin.
Some believe there is no validity in blaming anxiety for acting out of character. They do not understand that sometimes it can truly take over you. They do not believe that with anxiety, you have logical reasons for skipping on events or needing to be alone. They do not understand the unwanted thoughts running through your head. They do not understand the sudden uneasiness that leads you to believe you forgot how to breathe or that you are about to pass out. They do not understand the feeling of being everywhere but the place you are physically in.
The truth is anxiety can affect our everyday routines. Along with worrying about the smallest things, fatigue is a major symptom. Fatigue is probably my least favorite part as I constantly feel as if I’m going to die. Anxiety also affects our sleeping patterns, lying awake for hours worrying about absolutely nothing. Personally, I tend to dwell on something I said to someone months ago.
Self-consciousness is another big one. It tends to get tricky when you’re a sociable person with anxiety because it’s harder to explain what exactly triggers it. Being in a big crowd and talking may be easy but sitting back down and going over what you said a million times in your head is the hard part. You also constantly feel like all eyes are on you when you don’t want them to be. Being lively also gives the impression of being content and happy even though your mind is racing and you can’t stop sweating. People don’t believe anything is wrong or should be wrong which makes you worry even more about your constant distress.
Living in the age of social media can also trigger anxiety. It can escalate your self-doubt by having you compare yourself to others and their accomplishments. People seem to forget that everyone only shows the best version of themselves and keeps their darkness to themselves. We forget that everyone has a flaw and that we are not the only ones. We forget to breathe and take life a step at a time. We forget that we are human and it’s okay to not have everything figured out. We know that we need to stop letting anxiety control us, we just need to learn how. We just need to learn to how to stop letting our uninvited friend through the door. We need to find a way to get rid of the shadow constantly filling us with illogical fear.

I’ve Been Sexualized Since I Was Just A Little Girl

I am a thick girl, I am aware that I am very curvy. That gives no one any right to sexualize me every single day of my life. Ever since I was a small girl everyone would tell my mom how big my bottom was. Growing up in a latino family, that wasn’t necessarily a bad thing in my mom’s ears because they like it when women have some “meat”. I started getting catcalled at around 9 or 10 years old. It’s completely sick and the worst part is that cat-callers believe you should be flattered. In what world should it be okay to sexualize a girl before she’s even gone through puberty. It should not be okay to tell a young girl she needs to wear clothes that cover more because she’s distracting grown men. I’ve seen it so often that people judge a young girl playing with the boys while wearing a dress as if she should know better and cover up. She is merely having fun but no, she can’t have fun and wear a dress at the same time.
I am now 18, I still get cat-called. I still am told to cover up. Men still think I should be flattered when they sexualize me when wearing things they wouldn’t sexualize a skinny girl for wearing. The first thing people tell me when they meet me is “wow, you have a really big butt”. I am aware, I’ve been aware since I was a little girl being sexualized for having it. Guys never tell me I am beautiful, they tell me they would have sex with me if I gave them the chance. I’m expected to be flattered. I never know when a guy likes me for me or if he’s just trying to see what’s under my pants. My guy friends will never see me for the funny girl I am because they’re too busy looking at my behind.
This needs to end. There is no good reason for a girl to feel as if being in a bathing suit is vulgar because of her curves. There is no reason for a curvy girl to feel she needs longer skirts or looser skirts than a thinner girl. There is no reason a curvy girl should not be able to stand without everyone in the room sexualizing her. There is no reason a curvy girl should get groped because people think they have a right to touch because it’s just there ‘taunting’ you. There is no reason a girl should accept cat-calls as compliments because no one takes the time to look at her beautiful yet broken face instead of her curves. There is no reason a curvy girl should feel like they give her worth because even without them she is worth the world and more. There is no reason she should feel like all she is good for is sex. She is beautiful, intelligent, funny, but she is also broken because society ripped her into pieces.

Sunday, April 24, 2016

♡ London ♡







I know I haven't really been active on this blog in a long time, and quite frankly I am probably talking to myself and always have been but I want to be more active on here. One of biggest goals is to travel and this spring break I visited London which was very exciting. I was very dehydrated and tired most of the trip but I enjoyed myself regardless. I didn't really know the people I went with that well but being very outgoing, it wasn't hard to get acquainted. This trip really made me realize how much I truly belong in a big city. I loved having everything so close and attainable. I liked the long train rides, the bad weather, the toxic amount of people; it wasn't paradise but it felt like somewhere I could call home. I'm not going to lie and say it was absolutely amazing because some days I felt absolutely terrible but that was mainly due to being out for 10-15 hours everyday. Here are some photographs from my trip that I absolutely loved.